Posted by sunny10 on February 23, 2005, at 10:51:13
In reply to Re: everything is ok and then its not » shellybelle911, posted by jay on February 23, 2005, at 9:36:21
Please don't let yourself feel that it is so simple to suddenly decide you like yourself and "that you should just do it".
I would never presume to say it is so simple.
Little babysteps to start. I used to pretend I was on a twentieth date with someone I felt comfortable with and let that someone get to know ME. Not as I thought they would want me to act; but as I truly felt like acting. I was surprised to find that there was a lot more to like about myself if you actually let myself BE myself; and not what other expected of me.
I have come to decide that for me, the toxic relationships were "allowed" by me. I didn't think highly enough about myself to say, "wow, you're mean- I don't think I want to associate with someone like you" to someone who mistreated me. I thought they were mistreating me because I did something wrong!
There is nothing wrong with being you, no matter who YOU turn out to be. You will find others that like you just the way you are.
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