Posted by jujube on February 15, 2005, at 13:31:09
In reply to And so the fireworks shall begin on Friday eve, posted by sunny10 on February 15, 2005, at 13:00:06
Sunny,
FWIW, I think you have done the right thing. Times like this are, in my mind at least, about closure, healing and starting to and learning to forgive. It's hard to be on what seems like the *wrong side* of any situation, particularly such an emotionally-charged one that involves family and loved ones. But, in the time ahead, you can look back knowing that you did what you felt was right in your heart. Other members of the family may be angry, but they have to realize (IMHO) that is not all about them, and turning on each other does not lend itself to helping those (and themselves) who are hurting and trying reconcile their emotions, deal with their pain, heal and move on. It's sad but true - humans can be selfish at times, especially when they are hurting (and particularly when anger, resentment and regret may be clouding more productive emotions).
Hang in there and take care Sunny. And, don't forget about Sunny in all this. Try to build some time for yourself into the days ahead so you don't explode or implode. May you draw strength and comfort from those around you who love, care about and respect you.
My thoughts are with you.
Tamara
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