Posted by KaraS on February 3, 2005, at 2:25:34
In reply to Two depressed romantic partners..., posted by jay on February 2, 2005, at 21:01:30
> I need your guys input...yes again. Well, lucky me, I've met a nice gal (touch wood) off a dating site who opened up to me she has some problems with depression and anxiety. She is currently on meds. So, we traded 'war' stories...I told her of my meds/condition, her of her own, and she is having it really bad right now.
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> Now, if I had been going out with somebody say for a few years, and the depression was really affecting us, I might get worried. But, right now it's only been a short span of dates, and she listens to me just as much as I do her. So, it's not all one sided.
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> Do you think it's best I take a "wait and see" approach, because I DO know what it is like to be abandoned just because you have a mental illness? She has an amazing personality and intelligence, a grad student, very pretty and sweet. She is down-to-earth, doesn't take compliments well (humble..), and she was the one who initiated contact with me!
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> But, I am really scared, to be honest, because I know what this illness can do to you. So, I guess I'll see if we develop a nice relationship, and if that helps lift her spirits a bit. It has for me in the past...it was almost a saving "miracle" at one time. I am not going to try and play "Superhero" and think I can fix everything, overnight. But, maybe I can be that little thing that helps her rise closer to the surface again.
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> Anyhow, I;d really appreciate feedback from you guys...you are all very smart and come from all walks of life, and I need to gain a bit more perspective on this. Thanks!
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> Sincerely,
> Jay
It sounds good to me. I think you have the right attitude about it. I personally wouldn't want to be involved with anyone who hadn't dealt with depression. How could they ever really understand me or relate to me... or I to them?
At first glance you two seem to have a lot going for you so why not tak it slowly and see where it goes?Good luck.
Kara
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