Posted by just plain jane on January 26, 2005, at 21:21:54
In reply to Re: yes. I have., posted by Susan47 on January 26, 2005, at 10:03:45
> Ew, janey, I love your method of evading the censor... like what you said, too.
jackasses are among the cleverest of animals (toothy horse grin)
> Okay, what you said makes a lot of sense to me.
> What about the repercussions of hurting my parents? Did you have to deal with that?I sure did/do.
I changed my last name after my last divorce (number fourteen, i think :O ?). But rather than change it back to my maiden name (four letters that no one ever pronounced right), I changed it to my maternal great grandmother's maiden last name. It is as much mine as the one I was born with.
My father was ticked about it. I pointe out to him he didn't mind when I had taken another man's name, but he's ticked because I took a name legitimately mine, by virtue of ancestry. He was still mad, tough shyt. They raised me to be independent. It's MY frikin name.
When I changed my first name they were both crabby to me. Oh well. As an adult individual, I have the right to make decisions for myself. Would I let someone unrelated to me tell me what to do?
**not bloody likely**
so why should i let them dictate my choices? If they were as grown up as they (accidentally) raised me to be, they'd at least understand it is rightfully my choice. As are all personal decisions.
Actually, Susan, Dinah, et al;
My Dad got nasty with me about it last summer and i told him outright, as nicely and diplomatically as i could, that it was none of his business. He told me he'd never call me that.O well.
And you don't have to call me darlin', darlin'
You never even called me by my name...compliments to David Allen Coe.
just plain jane
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