Posted by octopusprime on November 16, 2004, at 9:51:19
In reply to Re: Musing on coping strategies, posted by partlycloudy on November 16, 2004, at 6:16:49
holy cow sabrina
that is quite the list of stressors
and if i was you, i'd be eagerly counting down the days on my calendar waiting for this year to be over!!!like you i generally do ok in a real crisis. i think the thing about our illnesses is that they have exposed us to serious problems, allowed us to define what a serious problem is, taught us how to access resources to help us cope, and showed us that life does indeed march on after a crisis.
i have faced life-or-death crises before and just kept on moving. i do well when everybody else panics, because i know that there is life on the other side of XXX event. i think deep down you know this too.
the problem with daily tasks is that they're unrelenting and unrewarding to deal with. the dishes will always be dirty, the clothes will always need washing, the bills will always need paying. a crisis is short, you can feel rewarded by drawing on your strength, you learn something about yourself you never knew before, and your life has been altered.
who can say that their life was changed by doing the dishes? might as well cry and throw a fit. (sorry my illness manifests itself in slovenly behaviour, that's my personal bugaboo!)
anyway interesting to think about. and may next year be less stressful for you
ps - i kinda like stress and i get bored without it, so much so that some people in the past have accused me of manufacturing crises. maybe as a distraction to keep me from thinking about/solving my boring/mundane problems? something else to think about.
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