Posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 11:22:05
In reply to Sisterhood, posted by Toph on November 13, 2004, at 14:51:03
Can I share something about sensitive men? I know the reason I fell in love with my therapist is because he is a thinker and he knows deeply about relationship. That sounds wacky, I know, but there it is, imperfect wording and all. I love men like you. And I see them every day at work, at the theatre, on the street. I even see them when they're with each other (read two guys together) and they're always eager to relate to us women. But what I've noticed is that women turn men off because they're defensive a lot. Since my therapy I've been a lot less defensive and I've learned that men do have everything we do in the way of ability to socialize. I'm starting to gather the cognition that women actually expect men to behave in ritualistic, unthinking, unemotional ways and that's why they do it. Men really WANT to please us. We need to recognize that, and respond to it.
Aaaahhh.
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