Posted by just plain jane on November 10, 2004, at 18:09:15
In reply to Re: For me it's having standards » 64bowtie, posted by AuntieMel on November 10, 2004, at 16:30:46
Hello, All.
For myself, AuntieMel's reply aims in the right direction.
At some point in my life I perceived that self-respect, just like all my other "emotions", is resident. I just need to allow it, not fight against the resident good in my character.
When I feel like beating myself up, I usually am reminded that this is a waste of time and energy because, even if I have behaved as *descriptive rotten word here* as I think or feel at the time, I KNOW the real truth, from which I am then hiding, which is that I actually am an okay person. I KNOW and yet persist in trying to defeat my self.
Now, if I were one of my friends, and someone else were trying to trample me, I would undoubtedly warn that person that, however vulnerable she (I) may seem at that time, ya better be prepared for when her head re-emerges from that dark and stinky place, because she's (I'm) going to come out swinging, stronger than before.
So, in essence, I kick my own @ss for letting me get so down on myself.
But, that's me.
However, I really do believe that the level of self awareness generally displayed here indicates my concept of emotional attributes being innate and exercisible just may bear some measure of validity.
Exercise builds.
just plain
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