Posted by tootercat on October 11, 2004, at 17:26:26
In reply to Re: Narc-anon is part of Scientology, y'know » 64bowtie, posted by Larry Hoover on October 11, 2004, at 8:32:54
To me it is about acceptance and living life on "life's terms not MY terms" I may not always get what I WANT but I do get what I NEED. The more I try to control things the more out of control my life becomes. So when I accept people, places, situations and things I cannot change I have a whole lot more peace and freedom.
This does not mean I become a doorknob and let myself or others be abused; it means that when traffic is slow, or my coworker is not my favorite person, or I didn't get my way etc, I don't try to change anything except MY actions or MY perception. This is alot more involved than I can explain in one post......
I have been involved in 12 step (mostly AA) for almost 15 years. I would not have the life that I have now if not for the guidance and love and support that the members have given without reservation and without expecting something in return. I agree, however, that it is not for everyone.
As Larry stated (I think) none of the things in the program are required. It is a "suggested program of recovery"
I happen to believe in a power greater than myself who I choose to call God but I still don't know exactly who or what he or she is other than a prescence or a being that helps me to believe that I am not alone. I have chosen NOT to be religious about my God, but hopefully spiritual. My God is ever-evolving as I am and I like that because it gives me the freedom to grow and ask questions and learn. I spent 30 plus years feeling alone in a room full of people and now I have a constant companion.
On another note: I tried CodA at one point and found it not to have the structure and support that I needed.
Thanks for letting me share!Hugs,
Tooter
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