Posted by partlycloudy on October 11, 2004, at 13:08:34
In reply to Re: Building Self-Esteem, posted by AdaGrace on October 11, 2004, at 12:43:52
Yikes! There is more than one way to skin a polecat, as jethro used to say; and not all self help books help everyone who picks them up. I have to say that at least half of the books that have been recommended to me as being "perfect" either left me flat or made me wonder what the person who suggested it thought of me... I have put those books which did not resonate with me into the waiting room at my therapist's office. Someone else picks them up, and says, "this is me!"
First of all, getting out of a relationship and then being told afterwards it was good you got away is not a bad thing. I agree that when a relationship ends - on whatever note or for whatever reason - you do have to go through a grieving process. I also think it is natural to feel lonely and perhaps unwanted after such an ending.
It doesn't mean we aren't worthy of others' attention, but we do need to nurture ourselves. For me, self esteem rises when I recognize that I need healing time; that treating myself especially nicely is not a selfish act but necessary.
I have struggled for years with the knowledge that I am worthy of love. There are times when I can't stand to be with myself, and at those times I am downright self-destructive.
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