Posted by daisym on September 23, 2004, at 20:21:48
In reply to Full scale hysterical meltdown, posted by Dinah on September 22, 2004, at 20:05:49
Dinah,
You know what I live with. My youngest has seen seizures, held down his dad and his brother while I've given shots, etc. etc. etc. And yes, he gets scared and anxious. But by telling him it scares me too, we can talk about it. You did the right thing by opening the door. Leave it open for awhile. Watch for signs that he wants to talk. Mine often do while we are cooking or when I'm driving. They don't have to look at me.
Here is the other thing. Be honest with their quesitons. "Is grandpa going to die?" "Well, yes, not today and not tomorrow but sooner than we'd like." It is a process to help kids feel fear and not be ashamed of it. Especially boys.
I keep hearing my sons don't want supermom, just mom. Take care of yourself. This is the best modeling they can have.
And hugs for you, because I know you need a mommy right now too.
(((Dinah)))
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