Posted by PhoenixGirl on September 15, 2004, at 19:56:03
In reply to Re: What do you guys think of a man like this? » PhoenixGirl, posted by iris2 on September 15, 2004, at 0:46:04
It sounds like the guy has emotional problems that are interfering with his ability to have a relationship. If he's not comfortable talking to you about it, maybe you could suggest couples' therapy. I think you guys have to work on the issue that's making him withdraw all the time, or else it will keep happening. Unfortunately, a lot of this may be out of your hands if he won't talk to you or go to couples' therapy.
Dating other guys might give you some perspective, so your mind won't be stuck on this one as much. Filling your life with other things. That's my thought anyway.> I dated a guy that got real close in about three months he was talking marriage. Then suddenly he stopped all communication. I was really hurt. For the last three years or so I call him every 3 to 6 months and he will start to call back like every day for two or three weeks. I usually see him once or twice during this time and then he stops all communication all over again and I get hurt again. Not as much like the first time. Thing is I really feel like I love the guy. He is the only person I ever felt comfortable with in my whole life physically. I am weird about touching usually. I do not like anyone to touch me at all man or woman and I liked it when he touched me. I am just talking like even just to hold hands or sit close not just sex. But that was a big thing about it all too. He is the only man I ever felt like I wanted. I was not being pushed into it or even feeling used or raped. I really miss him. He always has a reason for not calling and the last couple times said how sorry he was and he would not do it again. He did though. He says he is not using me and that the things that happen in his life he cannot share with me and closes up. What would have happened if I had said yes and married him when he was talking about it? Sometimes I think I wish I would have. Perhaps he would be sharing his life with me now.
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> Am I being totally irrational?
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> Advice, even if it is not what I might want to hear would be appreciated.
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> irene
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