Posted by partlycloudy on July 27, 2004, at 12:37:05
In reply to Guy for relationship advice...., posted by becksA on July 27, 2004, at 5:10:30
No expert here, but I'm happy to give you a woman's perspective. When you say you act affectionate and caring, do you mean all touchy-huggy? Do you think that you might be acting needy emotionally rather than affectionate? I only say this because I have had the same problem in previous relationships (I'm married and deliriously happy!), where I've turned into a Cling-On and really alienated the guy, or gotten in too fast too deep with someone who wasn't really a smart choice for me. Sometimes it was an animal attraction that masked a lack of depth in the relationship too.
I could be glib and say - just be friends and don't let it go any further until you get to know each other better - but I know what it's like to be lonely and new in a place that's unfamiliar.
My step-son, for instance, is 20 years old and has oodles of friends who are girls - not "girlfriends". They hang out together but aren't hung up.
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