Posted by gardenergirl on June 20, 2004, at 13:28:20
In reply to Childish?, posted by littlep24 on June 19, 2004, at 12:00:10
I'm sorry you and your husband are struggling over this. I have been married almost 9 years. My husband and I are only two years apart, though (actually he's the younger one). But this sounds typical of the things that couples have to negotiate.
My ex-fiance used to call me "simple" when we would fight. I would get so upset by this, and I think in some ways he meant childish. I later learned it was just his way of hurting me. I don't know if your husband's use of the word "childish" is just one of his "tools" in his fight bag, but perhaps you could talk to him about how you can negotiate these dilemmas.
Coming up with a plan ahead of time for how to decide these types of things can help when something emotional or unexpected comes up.
good luck to you dear,
gg
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