Posted by deirdrehbrt on June 17, 2004, at 17:28:49
In reply to Re: LOSS OF FEELINGS » deirdrehbrt, posted by littlep24 on June 17, 2004, at 0:14:31
LittleP,
It sound like you're working really hard at getting better. It's just so darned hard sometimes.
When I was talking about having your husband go to a T with you, it wasn't so much for marriage counseling. Sometimes people have a problem with 'marriage counseling' because it implies that something is wrong with the relationship. If you could get together though, just to discuss some of the issues (the ones you feel safe sharing) that you are working through. Perhaps he could discuss how they are affecting him. Maybe if he finds out how he is being affected, perhapes he could talk to someone on his own. I think that I would worry about him reacting to one of your issues thinking it was a problem between you. If he knew about it before hand, a problem could be avoided.
I know that when I was married, there were tons of issues that I had brought in from my past, and they really hurt the marriage. We would have been divorced anyway, but it would have saved us both alot of pain to understand the problems that I had brought into the relationship.
You are working so hard on this. I hope that you can feel like you're getting somewhere.Good luck,
Dee.
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