Posted by 64Bowtie on April 13, 2004, at 15:05:33
In reply to How Do I stand it...Again?, posted by DaisyM on April 13, 2004, at 13:32:49
(((Daisy))), I'm always on your side, period. I am however a typical male driven to fix! If its broke, I must fix it! When friends or relatives see me messing with their stuff and "flinch", I try to reassure them by saying, "I promise to fix anything I break!" Hmmmm.... Why do they always recoil in horror? That's not what they wanted to hear? oh! Duh!
David Peck was quick to point out when anyone would say, "I just can't stand any more of this!" that they are tougher than they think. Proof, they have managed this far and are still standing. Perhaps they had the right stuff all along to help them persevere. I find encouragement in his words.
Practically speaking, sometimes toooo much is simply toooo much. I empathize with your situation. I've sorta been there (different details). I can motivate people to spread the load. I ask for help and surprisingly, folks come a-runnin' to help.
Please don't get trapped by your expectaions. Expectations are all one way; toward you. Replace expectations with plans, goals, and options. This is a strategy to ensure you don't give up your personal power. I can explain later if you choose.
Try this: focus on a quest to see something new and beautiful each and every day (cinically speaking, it'll be your daily vacation anyway). Who knows, you might start changing what you think is beautiful once you get a little practice.
Rod
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