Posted by noa on March 21, 2004, at 13:46:23
In reply to Re: writing a letter to my abusive mom, posted by kellyr on March 20, 2004, at 17:32:42
(((((Kelly)))))
Hugs to you Kelly.
I think the advice Emmy and Jai gave you sounds good. Let your therapist know how it affected you to write the letter and all the thoughts it brought up. If you feel like you can't turn the thoughts off and it is too much, you need help from your therapist to figure out how to protect yourself.
What if you also wrote a letter to yourself about the good things about you?
Here is something you wrote back in 2000 (Posted by KellyR., on April 15, 2000, at 21:53:49) that made a big impression on me:
"...I work as a nurses aide helping people that are dying,& i find that giving them happiness in there final days is the best prozac for me."
When I read this then and read it again now, I think about what a gift you have. Not many people would feel this giving toward people in the later stages of life.
You also wrote:
"Find something to do......something that you can be proud of doing, that you made someone feel happy for the moment in time."
There is something in you, Kelly, something wonderful and loving. Something that is YOU, that you were able to hold onto deep inside of you, despite all the bad things that happened to you growing up.
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