Posted by Karen_kay on March 10, 2004, at 7:57:37
In reply to And then we all fall down, posted by tinydancer on March 6, 2004, at 10:09:55
It's very hard to handle an angry lover. Just ask my old man. Sometimes it helps me, when my old man becomes angry, to walk away and try to read a book or do cross words. Anything to just "Get away." Frequently I would lock myself in the bedroom, until he removed the lock while I was in there.
Try, if this happens again (and I hope it never does) to just go to a different room. If he follows with his fingers and words flying, try going for a walk. It's very hard to keep your cool when provoked. I've somehow learned to, but jsut by leaving the situation until we are both calm enough to talk aobut things, or avoid the issues. If this still doesn't work, what about seeing a divorce lawyer? If nothing else, he'd have a justifiable reason to be angry... Sorry if I'm not being helpful, but maybe you really should know that you deserve better than that, and I'll say it. I hope you realize it. Try the distraction and escape thing and let me know if it works for you, k?
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