Posted by Dinah on March 8, 2004, at 17:24:10
In reply to Re: ACA meetings/family, posted by All Done on March 8, 2004, at 9:37:55
I do understand. My father drank pretty continuously until he developed pancreatitis from his alchohol consumption and had to pretty much quit or die. I'm not sure he's sure he made the right decision.
He drank from the time he got home to the time he went to bed, we couldn't take a day trip without a cooler of beer. Yet he was never drunk and altogether he was far more pleasant when he was drinking than when he wasn't. He's not a bad man, and he did his best for his family, and me in particular. He sacrificed a lot for us. But he's sort of like a two year old in a man's body and he can have some impressive tantrums. That was a lot better when he drank.
So I never really thought of him as being an alchoholic or me as having a problem from his drinking until my therapist asked me about his availability. And of course, he wasn't all that available. He was sitting at the bar (in our house) drinking, not interacting with us all that much.
I still have to admit I'm not sure how much of a problem it is. I really don't. I have this sneaking suspicion that my life would have been absolutely h*llish if he hadn't been a drinker.
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