Posted by Jai Narayan on March 8, 2004, at 8:09:26
In reply to Re: please rephrase that » Susan J » Racer » gabbi » Stryker88, posted by Dr. Bob on March 7, 2004, at 17:46:24
Thanks Dr. Bob, I worked long and hard on that post. I used the rules that Dinah gave us and labored over it till it was really my heart and head speaking and not my anger and the desire to get mad. Anger is such a seductive force...I can get just as angry as anyone else maybe even more.
I am an old radical...I cut my teeth on discussions around the dinner table with my sisters and dad. Dad was the conservative and we were the radicals. He and I would lock horns. Some times I would end up in tears....he would always support me and badger me. I began to see holes in his logic and would pick away at these. He was very encouraging. We debated everything.
But really I didn't change till I did the EMDR and I got to see myself as something other than a victim. I got a glimps of my personal liberation emotionally. So I am not totally free but my inner sight is definately expanded. I can now learn how to talk a new way that will include people. I still get real upset and have my moments of unbeliveable outrage but I back away now.
I take another look.
ponder.
I just don't see the other person as the evil person I once would have thought. Not that there isn't evil in the world I do believe that. But I am not so stuck in my vision, my ideas, my thoughts...I can now listen to others. We can disagree but I am not going to convice the other person to agree with me.
Maybe there is a new place we can come to, we can create together. I feel more like a co-creator in my life.
thanks for listening, I'd love some response.
poster:Jai Narayan
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