Posted by Racer on February 28, 2004, at 14:13:11
In reply to Re: Do you guys work?, posted by noa on February 28, 2004, at 5:23:16
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> What still is hard is keeping up with the pace of the work. I often feel overwhelmed with all the different things I have to do, and trying to find a way to keep on top of things and prioritize and manage my time, etc.
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> I always have this feeling that there is something I'm not attending to that is going to come back and haunt me big time--like I'm forgetting something. I can actually point to a few things that fall in this category, actually, but the feeling is that there is something else I'm not remembering, something really big and important.
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Darling one, there's a name for that feeling -- anxiety! I'm teasing you about it because I never recognize it at the time, either. That is the definition of anxiety. You're not failing to perform your required functions, you're experiencing a form of anxiety.Here's a personal note to you from me. Right now, I'm just learning to recognize when my visceral knowledge of my own foundational failure is actually a Feeling with a Name. I'm trying to learn to recognize these Feelings, and address them by Name. As usual, it's a lot easier for me to recognize them in others than in myself, but I am starting to learn them for myself, too. (You know, that "I can't be a perfectionist, because I don't do anything perfectly" thing.) One part of the process I'm experimenting with right now is a sort of feedback loop of, "I am currently experiencing the following physical sensations" followed by "this cluster of physical sensations are part of a Feeling of [x]" which leads to "I am currently experiencing the Feeling of [x]. What does it feel like? How can I recognize it next time?" Does that make sense? I can't tell yet whether or not it'll help, but, then again, I'm not even on a first name basis with my feelings, so it's the best I can think of as a starting place.
Hope that helps, and hope you can recognize what I do in your post: the only big thing you've forgotten is that you're wonderful.
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