Posted by Lyrical13 on January 5, 2004, at 5:43:26
In reply to divorce one's family?, posted by sid on January 9, 2002, at 23:32:21
Sounds like the less contact you have with them the better. Your brother-in-law abused you and your sis is in denial. Sounds like interaction with them is negative and more abusive to you emotionally. Staying distant sounds like self-preservation to me. Until they get help for their own issues, you are probably not going to get the responses that you want and are only setting yourself up for more hurt. I know it feels weird not to be involved with family... I feel guilty about not visiting my grandma or very rarely doing so..esp at the holidays.. but the truth is, why set myself up? I know I'm going to walk away angry and upset so why go through that? Just because she's family doesn't mean I owe her anything. I feel bad because she's all by herself, but she made that bed herself. She was so awful to everyone that she's driven everyone away.
You dont have to feel guilty...they aren't helping you or being supportive of you...they're causing further hurt IMHO, L13
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