Posted by shar on December 25, 2003, at 12:10:14
In reply to Re: I'm awful but...., posted by Karen_kay on December 25, 2003, at 11:36:58
KK,
I'm just curious how old you are? And, of course as always, you don't have to answer that!!I know my perspective on 'attractiveness' has changed a great deal when I compare what I thought in my 20's vs. what I think now (past the half century mark).
And, this is not for you specifically, but I'd like to note a trend (at least in the USA) in general. I went through a period in my early 30's where I started doing some of the conventional things aimed toward attractiveness: got contacts, a real hair style, wore some make up, etc. A big change for me. I knew there were always people who thought I was pretty, but I made it hard for them to see it (none of the conventional methods used to make it apparent) because I wanted to be liked for myself.
Anyhow, after my 'conversion' I couldn't believe the difference with which I was treated by almost everybody--from the man/woman at the cash register, to being called on in class, to people I'd known for years. I was (I think) very much the same me; I can remember looking behind me when people would say nice things, or strangers would smile big at me...like, who are they aiming that at?
I was in grad school, and once a fellow classmate said "ha, ha, ha--I saw you coming up the escalator and thought "Who is that beautiful woman?" and then..."Oh, it's just Sharyn." And, to me, that was a real compliment. Because who he knew and liked was just regular old me.
So--the transformation lasted a little while, but what a huge hassle! I was eventually back in glasses with no makeup, and happier that way.
I don't have a "Let you have it" to give you. You are definitely entitled to your own thoughts and feelings, and really they aren't any better or worse than anybody else's. Tho they may be different.
Shar
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