Posted by Penny on December 15, 2003, at 10:38:23
In reply to I hate the holidays, posted by lavender on December 15, 2003, at 10:26:07
My pdoc said this is his busiest time of year, and no wonder!
I can totally relate - Thanksgiving was almost unbearable, even though I love my family, because they were just so...well....
So I'm limiting my time spent with them this Christmas. And only half paying attention to what my grandmother says to me. And not allowing myself to get into arguments that lead nowhere. And I have a '24-hour-rule' for time with my Dad, because the first 24 hours I'm around him is fine, but after that it gets tense and he gets critical, and I DON'T HAVE TO TAKE THAT ANYMORE.
Set your limits, if you can. Don't allow them (your mother, whoever) to treat you in a way you don't want to be treated. Be firm - if she nags you, tell her you don't want to hear it, in as polite a way as possible. If that doesn't work, leave the room. Discontinue the discussion. Take control of the situation.
I know, easier said than done. But, really, try to take care of YOU - if your mom labels you as jealous or whatever, tell yourself that she's entitled to her opinion, but you know the truth, and remove yourself from the situation.
Try to do something nice for yourself this holiday, if you can. Hope things improve...
P
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