Posted by octopusprime on December 13, 2003, at 23:33:03
In reply to Re: Love Life Pain » Jai Narayan, posted by tabitha on December 13, 2003, at 16:06:48
> Maybe there's something to be said for visualizing what I want. Not sure I have the optimism to do that. It's like almost assuming that what I want is actually out there somewhere. Then there's the follow-thru. Once I've imagined it, how do I find it? Instead I spend so much time dwelling on the last painful disappointment.
hmm tabitha, hmm.
sorry i'm not necessarily the most helpful person when it comes to the advice for the lovelorn: i'd love to promise that it's just a matter of time, there's somebody for everybody, blah blah blah, love happy purple monkeys, but i just don't know that. life, and love, do not come with guarantees.
the only thing i do know: it's hard to visualize love. when we visualize, we may indeed get fixated on the image, and not recognize the good when it comes our way (because it doesn't meet our pre-conceived notions). i find i have to really evaluate hard all of my interactions, and give everybody the benefit of the doubt, cause sometimes it pays off.
sometimes it doesn't, seems you've learned that one the hard way recently. :( and it's only natural to idealize what was lost, we all do it, so no need to beat yourself up over it.
so long as you continue to venture out into the world, and participate in the world around you, there is hope yet. i've had the opportunity lately to get to know many new people (although none successfully romantically); we live in a world of lost and lonely soulds, many of whom are capable of and willing to love. it's just hard to break those first defences, those walls created by modern life.
it takes time.
dance like nobody's watching.
i believe in karma, and that those with good hearts will indeed receive love in this lifetime.cheers
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