Posted by Susan J on December 11, 2003, at 8:06:59
In reply to mad or powerless?, posted by octopusprime on December 10, 2003, at 21:28:18
Hi, Octo,
>>when i read your angry list i noticed that many of your points concerned feeling powerless about affecting change in your own life.
<<That's a really good point. :-)> finally: men. ultimately frustrating! but if you are angry that you are emailing him frequently, yet not getting anywhere, maybe it is time to reduce contact?
<<Yeah, I gave him an ultimatum yesterday, well not really an ultimatum, but I told him he's gotta tell me if he just wants an e-mail penpal type thing, or whatever, and it kind of freaked him out. Of course, this is not getting me anywhere further unless I actually get to go out with him, but I'm not too worried about it anymore.
>> develop other interests.
<<Actually, other than feeling slumpy again and hating work, I *like* my outside personal life a lot now, for the first time in years....
>>you can't force people to feel what you feel.
<<yeah. I guess I get more frustrated when I get mixed signals, or maybe I'm not reading them right. Like the fact he e-mails all the time yet hedges on meeting. If he'd lost interest, wouldn't the e-mails die down a bit?
> so the long and rambly message i have is about empowerment. anger can be empowering if we harness it for use in productive ways! fight the power! burn our bras! i'm feeling empowered!
<<Yup, I gotta get there...if I can just get thru this week and next at work I think I'll be OK.Thanks!
Susan
poster:Susan J
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