Posted by zenhussy on November 20, 2003, at 17:26:15
In reply to Re: Whatta year thus far bruthah » zenhussy, posted by fallsfall on November 19, 2003, at 11:19:40
> Well, you certainly haven't been bored.
That is the understatement of the year! Laughed so hard when I read that. Thanks hon.
> You have done a lot of caretaking this year, your ICU family member, your friend's children. Sometimes I find that doing caretaking makes my life feel less worthless. Even if *I* am not worth anything, the people who I am helping are.Yep, the forced outside of one's own problems can be useful and helpful as long as one doesn't shove all of the self aside. I was almost there but fortunately collapsed and had the support team in place to keep it from being an in-patient situation.
> I hope the meds can settle down for you and start being helpful.
Me too!!! Please oh greater universe allow me some med peace. Too much to ask?
> I am amazed that you can initiate a relationship. I have two people I should be at least emailing with, but my whole life is therapy, and they are healthy, so I don't know what to talk about with them.
Hey there chickie, let's try a rephrase here. You have two people you *could* be at least e-mailing with..... Could, instead of should. That way you have the possibility. Should, implies necessity and almost sounds like a forced activity. Let's keep it light and possible, eh?
Oh healthy people are soooooo boring! ; ) I do know what you mean though. Sometimes with some of my more well adjusted (than me I guess) friends I just have nothing to call them with or write to them. I'm still depressed. Still living a meager existence. Hard to list accomplishments that *to me* seem important to others. Like who would care that today I did a load of laundry and folded it? Did the dishes? And vacuumed? (about to go out to the pharmacy--my new hangout---to pick up latest round of new meds) So I hear ya when you say you don't know what to say to the 'norms'. Let them worry about the quality of the conversation. For now be proud if you can have conversation. That is more important. Keep the contact. Don't worry about the deeper stuff now.
As far as initiating a relationship I'm not sure how this fell into my lap. Sometimes things work in mysterious ways. I'm as surprised as anyone could be. I truly didn't think I would even entertain the notion for at least another year. Shows what I know! Hah! = )
> ((((Zen))))
((((((((((fallsfall)))))))
back atcha babe. You sure were nice to post information about Dee while she was in hospital. I'm glad to read she is out. You've been a very supportive friend. I think the both of you are lucky. Take care sweet falls.zh
I haven't forgotten about the jacks. Thank you.
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