Posted by Poet on November 14, 2003, at 13:16:05
In reply to Cant get over ex! HELP!!, posted by JimD on November 14, 2003, at 12:42:09
Hi Jim,
You are in a tough situation. Trying to just "be friends" isn't working, because you have recognized you still have strong emotional and physical attraction.
As the Eagles sing in Hotel California "we are all just prisoners here of our own device." Escaping from that prison is hard, being friends with an ex makes it even harder. I would think about why you broke up in the first place before you leap into reconcililation. Think about it now, not when you're back together and suddenly everything bad is back and even worse.
I should tell you I'm not a gay guy (married female) but I have been through this with my ex's. There were lots of them and only one has been able to remain friends, but even my husband says he can tell the guy is still in love with me. My ex is in my social circle so we see each other frequently. It's not awkward for me, I don't know how he deals with it. Then again he is the one who left me.
I hope I offered some help.
Poet
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