Posted by Susan J on October 27, 2003, at 12:28:58
In reply to Re: Pain, Pain, My World is Pain..... » Susan J, posted by Dinah on October 27, 2003, at 11:08:45
Hi, Dinah.
> Have him get a family law attorney. And it might be best for him to go through this attorney in future communications.
<<He's got one. He doesn't really want to use the lawyer and is instead trying to come to some sort of amicable agreement with K. But the lawyer's there if necessary.
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>> The fact that she effectively abandoned her child in the care of her husband, and that she relies on him to take care of her still will probably mean that she's not going to get sole custody of the baby.
<<I don't think sole custody will be a problem. D (my brother) had wanted sole custody himself, but is very willing now to go 50/50. There is a *lot* of evidence that D has always been the primary care giver and that K has never shown much interest in the baby.>>But prep him for that fight at least. I think there are some online groups supporting fathers obtaining custody. Why don't you do a search.
<<That's a good idea. He's doing counseling, and I was thinking about getting a book on how to help little kids through divorce....but I'll look online too. My brother's not a big reader, though, he learns better by people speaking to him...
> The most important thing is the munchkin's wellbeing.
<<This is what breaks my heart the most. And my brother is just aching that he's not going to get to go to sleep every night with the little boy under the same roof as him. And, if K doesn't get some help, she's not going to be the best mom in the world. I think my brother's worried about that, too.I make it seem like my brother is God as far as that little boy is concerned, but I don't mean it like that. He's definitely got his faults....I wish more than anything that both parents would stay under the same roof for him....they both provide him with love, just in very different ways....and I always thought kids needed that.....the difference, I mean.
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