Posted by DharmaMama on October 22, 2003, at 13:10:26
In reply to Sis-in-law is driving me absolutely buggy!, posted by Susan J on October 20, 2003, at 12:43:32
I definitely agree with Dinah. Do not get involved. You may feel compelled to help, it is your brother. At the most maybe lend an ear, shoulder to cry on but do not get too involved.
She obviously does not want cut the strings. To give you some insight: For some odd reason, I can relate to what I read. I have two girls I absolutely adore. There have been times when I just wanted to leave home. Not because I did not love my kids. Just because I was at my wits ends. I work fulltime, have the bulk of the house work, the two kids, soccer . . . I know typical parent's daily routine. With underlying issues and depression, it weighs on you. I was overwhelmed and basically lost it. I was depressed, felt like my life was going nowehere, my husband works nearly 24/7, and I could not find solitude. I was not interested in my husband anymore. Not interested in my kids. Yet, I loved them and would not let anything or anyone harm them.
I just needed time away.
Fortunately, I got that when we went to visit his family for a month in New Zealand. Yeah, it was with family but we did camp for 16 nights traveling the country.
There were times when I flipped out and left home for a night and slept on the beach. Just out of anger and the need to get away. I felt bad.
Maybe with her time away and possibly some family counseling, she will come around. I hope so. That Mama will be in my thoughts.
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