Posted by Susan J on September 8, 2003, at 12:32:39
In reply to youre kind of a quiet guy, posted by Nolan on September 6, 2003, at 23:34:00
Nolan,
> I go through all this work to not be socially phobic, and make so many attempts to be outgoing, then someone who has known me for only 2 weeks, (suite mate in dorm) was saying to me how he thinks I'm quiet.
<<I know what it's like when a supposedly innocuous comment busts you down. Sorry it hurts so much. But it *does* sound like you are doing a great job at trying to be outgoing. I'm introverted by nature myself, but I do have times I really crave human contact. That's the only time being an introvert hurts me. Otherwise, it's pretty darned cool. If I go to the movies by myself, there's no one next to me to ask stupid questions. And there's no one to dog the movie afterward that I just loved to death. And there are plenty of times when reading a book alone at lunch is infinitely more entertaining that listening to a bunch of shallowheaded knuckleheads talk about their goofy days. :-)So, it *is* OK if you want to be alone. And it's OK if you want tons of friends, or just a small group of good friends. And it's totally OK if you are not quite sure exactly what you want quite yet.
Attempting to be outgoing is great, too, because it helps you to develop the social skills you'll need if/when you want company.
And nothing is *ever* easy when school starts...
Good luck with everything.Susan
poster:Susan J
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