Posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:57:18
In reply to weekend with my munchkins, posted by Penny on September 8, 2003, at 7:49:33
Had this in my inbox when I got to work this morning, from the mom of the kids I nannied for:
So good to see you this weekend. It sounds like it's been a rough summer -- and I'm with you there! But you've got a good support system in place with the Drs and your Nana, and I think your on your way to some better times once you get this move behind you at the end of the month. I'm really impressed with the clear logical thought and research that you put into your career planning. I do think the therapy thing is right up your alley. SO GO FOR IT! We're behind you all the way.
I was thinking about your roommate/friendship situation and I believe you have your roommate's number. I realize that friends have a support responsibility to each other, but I haven't ever really seen a healthy pattern of that with her in the years that I have known you. Being a very cut and dry person (as *my former therapist* calls her) my threshhold for friendship is 80/20. If they are not positive influences on my attitude, my career, my family, my lifestyle, etc. at least 80% of the time, are they really a "friend"? Maybe I am their unpaid therapist or punching bag. I think you saw that happen with your other college friend. Even friendship is a learning experience. The good news is that if you surround yourself with people you're bound to have friends. Get going on that volunteering to help your MSW application. And think about some social stuff too, like Habitat or Junior Women's Club or something else that strikes your fancy.
One other thought --when I was your age, I had not yet met my husband. There's always another influencial person right around the corner.
There is always a family in Charlotte (or maybe Chicago) who believe in you. And there are two little red heads who are better people because of the two years that you lived with them. No one will ever take that away from you.
Love you.
M
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