Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2003, at 11:51:15
In reply to Exercise is way overrated, posted by Dinah on September 1, 2003, at 6:48:15
Can I make a copy of this and send it to my old therapist? She honestly believed that everything would be all better if I would get some exercise. That was ALWAYS her first solution.
> For me anyway. I've been working hard all week, and feeling worse emotionally. True, I drop to sleep exhausted, but my sleep is restless. My anxiety may have dropped, but my depression is rising.
> But later, I'm thinking about how lonely I am (I guess we all are). About how there are so many things that people just don't want to hear.Are we the only ones who have things that people don't want to hear? Do the healthy people not have secrets and pains and shame? Is that what makes them different from us? Or do we just want someone to understand our pain so we don't have to be alone? Do they have pain that doesn't make them lonely?
My therapists (both of them) tell me to spend more time with "healthy" people. But I am drawn to the "unhealthy" ones because they care and want to understand. Do the "healthy" people have the same pains that we do, but they just ignore them?
> About how if you're productive, people don't care about anything else. About how that's especially true in my marriage.
Or is it that when you are NOT productive, they don't care about anything except making you productive? CBT still feels to me like "play act the role and you'll eventually fool yourself into thinking that it is true." Your husband has many wonderful qualities, I wish he could understand a little of your pain.
> About how the only place I can really be honest about who I am and what I feel is in therapy. And about how very sad that is.
Make a bunch of "crazy" friends and expand your circle! (Join a support group, lol)
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> I suspect that maybe the internal energy that shows itself as anxiety also is somehow protective against the low mood that flourishes when increased physical exertion depletes the energy.
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> Just a theory.What a sentance! I had to read it 4 times before I understood. But I think you could very well be right. I think that anxiety is protective. All I can think of is labor pains - and when you tighten muscles (i.e. anxiety) against the pains that it makes you feel like you are in control. But really the way to get through it is to "accept" the pain (wow, this is as close as I will ever get to mindfulness!).
I'm very impressed with what you got done. I think you should now enjoy a well deserved rest.
(and I'll go take my dogs for a walk because you made me feel guilty about exercise.)
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