Posted by fallsfall on August 15, 2003, at 8:23:18
In reply to (((jimi))), posted by kara lynne on August 15, 2003, at 2:57:02
> And then...what should I say should we ever speak again? If he calls in the future? The more time away from him the angrier I am (recovery of self esteem), and the less I could ever 'get over' the things he said and the way he was with me. I wish I could say something clear and strong to that effect-- not that he'd be able to hear it, but for myself.
>
> That's the next thing I'm trying to prepare for. But in the meantime, I'm
> NOT
> CALLING
> HIM.NOT CALLING HIM is good!
You are wise to prepare for the day when you do see him or talk to him. What to say? You correctly point out that he won't hear what you say. So what you say needs to be good for you. I think you have a couple of choices:
1. "I'm busy right now and can't talk to you" (hangup, or walk away)
2. 2 sentances (no more) that you have memorized so completely that your unborn children know them about how you are moving on.
3. Tell him that you love him and want to come back right away - - - NOO!!!!!!!!! Don't do that!
Whatever it is, I think that the goal has to be to get away or hang up as quickly as possible. I think that a long impropmtu discussion would not be a good thing. You can talk to him, if you still want to, in 6 months.
You are doing really well, Kara!!!!!
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