Posted by Penny on August 14, 2003, at 14:46:01
In reply to Re: Ok, I'll reframe it., posted by Dinah on August 14, 2003, at 14:38:25
> It'll become another example of his lack of emotional skills. Perhaps I'll even look back and laugh affectionately about it.... someday.
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> I'll even try to think about what he was trying to say while trying to ignore how he said it.
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> And I won't give him a lesson of what it feels like to hear the truth. It might feel good short term but is hardly likely to improve matters long term. :(
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> (And Kara Lynne, you're right. My husband's IQ is in the genius range, but he is unbelievably literal in emotional matters.)My therapist told me, I guess it was last week, when I received the email from my roommate that I perceived as hurtful, that I should try to look for the truth in what she said, because rarely is EVERYTHING someone says wrong, and let the rest go. You can't change what the other person says, but you CAN change the way you perceive it (although I KNOW that is easier said than done).
Well done, Dinah!
(((Dinah)))
P
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