Posted by Willow on August 7, 2003, at 3:53:53
In reply to Teenagers, posted by fallsfall on August 7, 2003, at 0:12:22
Fall
Sorry to say I can't offer much solid advice. My oldest is 12 and I didn't think it could get much worse than yesterday. She was in tears because she couldn't find a pair of jeans to fit, and I think she was starting to direct her frustration at me. But now after reading your post, yep, it can get worse.
My daughter hates when I say this, but I do recall that "that age" (being 15) mother~daughter relationships can become strained. I know mine definitely was and the neighbours became so and a friend's teenager went through alot of angst. What all these families had in common was that the father wasn't living in the home. I don't know if this is a real factor or if the cause is just a fact of life; Our daughters evoling from children into independant young women.
As another parent, all I can say is hold the allowance until the job is done correctly, perhaps even giving warning that no payment will be made if you need to complete the work. And then next time, if you feel the need to finish up loose ends do so. Regarding the computer, ours was down for a few days (monitor died) and suprisingly my pre-teen ventured out of the house.
> Thanks for listening. I couldn't go to bed. Her going to her dad's has been a real problem for me in the past. I think it is OK this time.
Ah, yes, rejoice that there's another adult for her to torture. Hopefully her father has the sense to lay down a few guidelines.
Well it has been awhile since I've watched the sunrise. Think I'll go make another cup of coffee, eat my meds, and get the washing machine going. Count your blessings, at least the father isn't living under your roof. A middle aged spouse I think is worse than a teenager. At least the teenagers grow up.
GOOD MORNING
Winking Willow
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