Posted by yesac on June 22, 2003, at 12:36:15
In reply to Re: Stupid anger, posted by Snoozy on June 21, 2003, at 23:02:14
> I have been able to identify one common element in almost all of this - when things are out of my control. If I'm waiting for someone else, and they're running a little late. Even if we have hours to do whatever it is we're supposed to do, I sometimes start getting angry. It's like it just feeds on itself, and after 5 minutes I've got steam coming out of my ears.
I feel exactly the same way about waiting for people, even if we have tons of time. I get SO frustrated and pissed off. But it does seem to really depend on my current mood. Sometimes I can be very patient. It depends on circumstances.But, yeah, I think it's worse when things are out of my control - like waiting in line for a slow cashier, getting stuck in traffic or behind slow drivers, waiting for a friend to show up, when the water won't boil fast enough, when none of the radio stations are playing a decent song.... I can stand it more when it is my own fault.
I also know that a lot of my frustration and anger is basically due to my repression of it. I often don't say anything when I am annoyed or pissed off, and therefore just surpress the feelings and they build up more and more.
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