Posted by shar on June 18, 2003, at 18:48:31
In reply to Re: I'm scared, please help » kara lynne, posted by noa on June 18, 2003, at 16:57:09
K-
I am shocked and horrified! I cannot add much, but I can agree that this was much more about HIM than you! Relationships are complicated, more than cooking and cleaning. I know people, in spotless houses, who are terribly unhappy; and good cooks!I'm so sorry this comes right before your boards. I had a similar expierence before my final orals for my doctorate. My then-spouse really went off the deep end about everything that was wrong with ME, and the RELATIONSHIP, and other things...but he missed the part about HIM. He was terribly threatened.
I do hope you will believe your therapist, and that part of you that says 'surely I can't be THAT bad!' and ignore the outbursts of this person.
And, good luck on your boards. I don't know what boards they are, but I bet you'll do fine. Surely it does not feel that way now, but you just wait and see. Oh, and, if HE's so unhappy, he should move out, not you. You have boards to study for!
Take good care!
Shar
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