Posted by whiterabbit on May 14, 2003, at 18:56:39
In reply to Re: Why? » Eddie Sylvano, posted by WorryGirl on May 14, 2003, at 17:39:05
WorryGirl - methinks you have a touch of the manic depressive in you. If so...welcome, welcome to our dark little club. Don't be put off by the opium-den atmosphere - take off your shoes, sit down and relax.
You under-estimate your gifts. Your writing is clear and intelligent. You scoff at being "sweet",
which means you have the capacity to care deeply about someone else. Which means that, in your correspondance, in the way you relate to others,
your conversation isn't the usual, "Mememememe and me, and did I tell you about me?" Don't ever let anyone convince you that caring for others is wrong, that you SHOULD be just as competitive and selfish as the next guy. This doesn't leave you defenseless in the rat race, because you don't have to BE in the rat race at all. Step aside, leave the race to the rats. You be sweet, girl.I don't always reply to everyone when they post to me BUT I always appreciate it, I really do, when someone takes the time to answer me. (Every once in awhile I do offend somebody - not too far back, somebody called me a bigot - but those posts are few and far between.) I get support and advice here, and try to give the same in return when I feel I have something to offer. Most importantly - I believe I posted this recently to someone, can't remember who - the act of writing itself is a healing process, as it allows you to organize those thoughts in your head. When someone replies with a kind word, that's a special bonus.
So don't cut yourself off from that! I can tell you, the way we see ourselves and the way others see us is quite different. We're not flat, one-dimensional beings, we're all multi-faceted as jewels, presenting different sides of ourself to others. This doesn't mean we're deceptive, just complex. For instance, my husband thinks I'm impossibly strange and probably quite mad. (And he does know how to push those buttons that set me off, quite right.) But not everybody has that opinion of me and I will no longer let him convince me that I'm some kind of freak because we're polar opposites...we might be very different, but that doesn't make ME wrong or wierd
or somehow inferior to him. Just different. Hallalujah for different.
-Gracie
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