Posted by leeran on April 22, 2003, at 19:46:22
In reply to Ummmm......, posted by Dinah on April 22, 2003, at 18:39:58
Dinah,
The reason I asked "how far do you want to go with this topic" is because I don't know the parameters regarding certain subjects here on the board.
My first husband called me "frigid" and perhaps I was - but I left the marriage multi-orgasmic and it had absolutely nothing to do with him OR with a third party (oh, here I am, teetering way out on the limb, as usual).
To say that this is a subject that's near and dear to my heart might give the impression that I'm a nymphomaniac*, when in fact, it's just that this is one of the few problem areas in my life that I can take credit for overcoming on my own (and not due to anyone else's agenda or insistence).
Aversion could, I suppose, be linked to many factors - medications, attraction, self-image, hormones, etc.
Looking over that list, I know I've experienced aversion based on each one of those factors:
1) medication (Paxil)
2) attraction (more accurately, lack thereof, with my first husband)
3) self-image (always a factor with me)
4) hormones (another "or lack thereof," the newest player in the line-up).The downside for me is that sexual aversion (when it has existed in my life, for any reason) is just one more issue I can use to berate myself.
As you can tell, I'm an open book on a message board (although very shy in real life).
I'm more than happy to answer any question you might have regarding what worked for me.
Lee
*Note - absolutely no slur intended toward anyone with that dx, it just doesn't happen to be mine.
poster:leeran
thread:221574
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