Posted by paxvox on March 31, 2003, at 20:45:54
In reply to Depression and Relationships, posted by T_R_D on March 31, 2003, at 14:07:29
Well, I can answer that question from several different ways, but I'll use the most relevant. I have suffered from depression for almost 13 years now, but have been fairly stabilized since about 1997 on Wellbutrin with some Tranzene to take the edge off. Effexor can be a nasty med, I have heard a lot of stories about it. Wellbutrin is a GOOD AD, depending on your problem. It definitely does not adversely affect your sex drive, and may actually increase it. Now, as to the relationship part. My wife also has depression related to PTSD. I, like I said, have been "functional", but she has continued to degredate. Her problems compound my probelems, so you can see that this makes for a complicated relationship. It has not made me leave my marriage, but it HAS defintely hurt it. My suggestion to you would be two-fold. Assuming you are still in your relationship, get her to go to counseling with you. That way she can see some of what's up, and can also "vent" in front of a (hopefully) objective third party where she might NOT have done to you directly. Secondly, work your meds. If that's not working, there are MANY combinations and options. It took my Pdoc (and I am assuming you are seeing a Pdoc and not just your GP) about two months to find the right meds for me. It is a process that requires trial and error. If your girl REALLY loves you (and assuming you are not being violent or abusive to her) she should stick around as long as you can involve her in your treatment process. If she is NOT willing to "help" you, maybe the decision has aleady been made for you.
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