Posted by bozeman on March 25, 2003, at 23:01:22
In reply to Bozeman- your ex is contrite?, posted by kara lynne on March 25, 2003, at 21:53:23
Yes . . . in his way. Very sweet and considerate, opening doors etc (which he never does) and missing me desperately. He called me about six times yesterday and five today and insisted we have dinner and talked my ear off. He is very contrite, loves me more than he's ever loved another soul but he can't get past his past yet, maybe never. I'm withholding judgement for now. Noncommital. See how long he can keep it up and if he can actually apologize and (gasp!) compromise. Probably be a cold day in hell. He doesn't mean to be cruel, he's just broken like so many of us. I suspect he's bipolar but he would never go to a pdoc to find out.
And, the central issue on my timetable is, it doesn't matter how much either of us loves the other if we pussyfoot around too long to have a family. Unacceptable. So unless he can get over that (he's not against it, just freezes up over it. He *says* he wants a family but I don't think it's ever been a real concept to him.) It's real to me. He could get a young thing to bear him children in twenty years. I can't. I need to decide now, soon, within the next few years.
Getting what will turn into a migraine if I don't sleep. Will keep you all posted on how it does.
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