Posted by lil' jimi on March 25, 2003, at 14:11:03
In reply to Re: need support for grief » babs, posted by Tabitha on March 25, 2003, at 13:29:01
> Hi babs, the best thing I found to do for grief was to notice when it started to come up, and to just try to go into the feeling as much as possible. It may feel like it will overwhelm you but if you can tolerate it, it will subside. If you can do that I think it actually passes faster than if you try to avoid the feeling or do things to distract yourself. Best wishes.
Dear Babs,
to expand on tabitha's suggestion, allow me to quote myself from my posting to rickoshay at
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20030322/msgs/212204.html :"About grieving and crying: these are things to do in increments and at intervals to achieve the necessary beneficial relief and to work toward the goal of reaching beyond the sadness, one day. It is work that must be done, but it can’t be done all at once or it would crush us and it may not be avoided or it will make us explode. It is best done regularly and a little at a time, with “a little” measured by how much strength we have available and how much support there is to protect us in our suffering. We must suffer, yet we must control how much we suffer, for our self-preservation, while we are suffering. Not an easy task, especially while under the worst of circumstances. Helping other family and friends with their suffering can offer a blessed diversion from our own pain, sometimes, for the benefit of everyone. .... I hope these suggestions are not too presumptuous. "
i apologize for my redundancies.
love,
~ jim
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