Posted by noa on March 22, 2003, at 11:10:19
In reply to Re: delusion question » daizy, posted by Dinah on March 22, 2003, at 9:39:35
Sensitivity to cues--I have that too, although sometimes it is "ON" and sometimes it is kind of turned "OFF". Sometimes I am so hypersensitive and others I am incredibly oblivious. I think when I'm oblivious it is becasue I am defending with my blindspots. But the "ON" times make me vulnerable to taking things personally.
My therapist has also worked well with this. At times when I've asked something, or had feelings in response to something he said or didn't say, sometimes incredible subtle things, he picks up on it and is able to own what signals he was sending. He acknowledges my picking up on things as a strength (perceptive) but we also talk about how it makes me vulnerable too.
The most crazy making thing is when you pick up on something and people deny it and make you think you are being too sensitive. Of course, that was my mother. I like that my therapist doesn't repeat that. I think some therapists might inadvertantly repeat that pattern because it is hard to own their own cues or to disclose their own process.
But sometimes my "perceptiveness" gets me in trouble! Besides thinking the worst and taking things personally, when I was younger, I would think these rather suspicious scenarios out of simple coincidences that I noticed, but I put too much meaning in them and drew the wrong conclusions!
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