Posted by Ilene on March 16, 2003, at 23:46:04
In reply to Re: I will never know love., posted by paxvox on March 15, 2003, at 18:42:19
> Well, now that's a rather deep post there! I could try to unwrap the different levels of problems you are facing, but obiously it's a self-image issue. You did not mention if you are getting any therapy/medication etc...It would be helpful to know that kinda stuff. Weight issues can be resolved medically, if and WHEN you really want them to be. But have you considered you have "created" this self because you are unsure of who YOU are? You say you want to be loved, yet have tried consciously and unconsciously to derail that effort by self-degradation and depreciation. There is a rather nasty cyclic pattern you are in, one feeding the other. No wonder you see yourself in and endless spiral to killing yourself. Love. Now that is too deep for me to tackle in this post. But if you want love, and to be loved, there are many simple ways to get that. children. There are so many kids with absolutely nothing. No security, no possesions, no home, no safety. In short, their world is transatory, their pleasure ephemeral. Find a place in your community where there are homeless shelters, or places food is given out. Go there and help the children. Show them your love. They will love you back. Now, this does not answer your need for love of a partnership level. However, I think that once you have found a healthy outlet for your love,and have found that indeed you ARE lovable as a person, that your self-image will do a 180. You may not find this past love you wonder about, but who has ever gained a second of future by living in the past? Live in the present, live for today. Find a reason to be. Give it a try. What do you have to lose?
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> PAX
Hey! That's a little hard. So direstraits is wallowing in self-pity. Not the most productive approach to life, I agree, but who here doesn't understand misery?I have 2 kids and a husband who love me, and I love them back, but my self-image hasn't done a 180. I have reasons to be, but I don't feel like being. There are no cure-alls.
--I.
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