Posted by syringachalet on March 13, 2003, at 5:24:25
In reply to Perspective, posted by Gracie2 on March 13, 2003, at 4:10:09
Hello Gracie,
I have had several friends who worked their butts off to put spouses through school so they could have a good paying job and their life together would be better.
When two of these friends spouses finished school and landed that good job they decided to find someone else to share their lives and their beds with.
Both of these friends were blown-away and finally sat down and figured out just how much of that spouses educational expenses they had provided and one asked for one-third and one asked for half. These women had basically worked two job( one 8 hrs outside their home and 6-8 hrs at home raising their families and keep their home.
The 'more educated' spouse was angry because they did not consider their education as a mutual/community property asset. I guess these two friends of mine figured that their marriage was supposed to be a partnership and this partership was dissolving. If they had had to borrow the money from a bank, there would have also been interest on the loan included.
Finally, they settled on the'more educated spouse' would pay the supporting spouse their half of what their current monthly living expenses were (utilities,child support,car payments, and each paying any credit card debit they had accumulated). This was to be for one calendar year and each was able to claim one of their two children for tax purposes.This was one way that the supporting spouse had enough to live on until they could figure out what they needed to do to go on after this 20 years of partnership/marriage.
It is unfornate that you are so right about considering a committed relationship with someone whom would treat you with such disrespect of your needs and feelings.
I think it would make me wonder if I would really wanted to spend the rest of my life with that person. And what kind of influence would that person have on any children you might bring into this world.Sounds like you got lots of things to think about....
Good luck and know we are thinking about you and really care.syringachalet
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