Posted by noa on February 27, 2003, at 19:24:23
In reply to Re: And I'm NOT shy!! (all the time, anyway), posted by kara lynne on February 27, 2003, at 13:33:02
Kara, I think that you are like me in that I had set myself up with such huge expectations for how confident and competent I should feel after finishing school, and it was a set up for failure for me. Most of what I feel I know in both knowledge and work abilities is what I gained from work experience. Of course, what I learned from work experience also built upon the "scaffolding" of what I learned in school, but looking back, it sure was unrealistic of me to expect so much of myself starting out.
Give yourself a break. On both the educational/professional front and the social front. You are definitely in huge transition right now, which means HIGH stress and lots of personal things to get settled on. I had terrible times in those transition times, and wish I could have been kinder and more patient with myself then.
Learning goes on and even increases from here on in. Don't expect yourself to be an expert yet. You do know stuff, I'm sure. A lot of stuff. But it will become more accessible and meaningful and useful as you begin to gain actual work experience.
Get a support group, a mentor, someone (singular or plural) who can help you through the transition and as you adjust to your new professional life.
And give yourself a break, ok?
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