Posted by Ginjoint on December 11, 2002, at 20:08:44
In reply to Well, I did it, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2002, at 20:33:04
Sweet Dinah, Smart Dinah....
God, I admire your guts. You know, our society makes such a THING out of family "ties." As if we're supposed to be bound to them no matter how unhealthy it may be, just because they're FAMILY, for God's sake! After having been the victim (or survivor, pick your favorite psychobabble) of a very toxic brother (as well as a few other darling relatives), I've learned that "family" is a relative term (pun intended). I believe we CAN choose our families.
Anyway, just because these people raised you and cared for you, well, that just means they were responsible enough to do what's expected when you bring another life into this world. It does NOT indebt you forever to them as they choose to make life miserable for you and everyone around them.
They don't like outside help? Well, that's the bed they're making, and they'll have to live with the consequences of their crabass behavior. All of us here on this board accept outside help in order to be better human beings for ourselves AND the rest of the world. No one should be exempt from that human responsibility, no matter how old they may be.
I'm glad you're looking out for yourself, Dinah. This isn't selfish behavior on your part, sweetie. Think of it as avoiding a huge pothole so you don't drop your transmission and can't go anywhere. :)
Your friend,
Ginjoint
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