Posted by shar on October 9, 2002, at 12:15:35
In reply to Re: college life...a joke?, posted by mair on October 8, 2002, at 20:41:44
I had my son when I was 18, so I was already a mom when I started college and didn't hang with the party crowd. However, I did know some of the party crowd, and tho they did seem to have fun they were mostly the rich kid type who didn't have to worry about much except getting passing grades. That life--everything about it--is totally alien to me; to not have to worry about day to day living because someone was taking care of stuff for you? Only in my fantasies.
I do relate to the idea of wishing to be able to party now and then. I have 15 years of sobriety now, and I still miss that uninhibited feeling I could get with drinking--before I got drunk. It was fun, funny, full of laughter, daring (in a non-normal way not a daredevil way), dancing, joking, etc.
Drunk was not nearly as much fun and usually led to throwing up.
Sober people say you can have as much fun sober as any other way, but, frankly I have not found that to be the case. However, I maintain my sobriety because drinking again would be the death of me I'm sure. Not a quick neat death, but a longish drawn-out nasty one, I'm sure.
BTW, in my opinion the term 'pity party' should be outlawed. There is no crime nor shame in recognizing that your life is hard at times, maybe a lot of the time. We shouldn't have to berate ourselves for telling the truth about it being hard.
Wishing you some fun,
Shar
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