Posted by lawrence s. on October 2, 2002, at 21:57:34
In reply to My therapist gave me homework and I'm scared., posted by Tabßitha on October 2, 2002, at 4:06:41
> I have to make conversation with a guy in the coffeeshop. I keep seeing perfect opportunities and wrecking it by being just frozen with shyness.
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> Last weekend I sat next to a cute black guy who was reading the paper. He started yawning loudly, I think he was trying to get my attention. All I had to do was look over and smile, I think he would have talked to me, but I couldn't do it. Or I could have said "hey, you're making me sleepy with that yawning". But I just couldn't do it. I sat there for 10 minutes like a big dumb idiot and left.
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> The only time I'm able to talk to strangers like that is if I'm drinking. That's the whole appeal, alcohol obliterates my shyness and I get to talk to people.
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> My therapist says it's like jumping off the diving board. She asked me how I'll feel if in ten years my life is just the same and I haven't made any changes. What a godawful thought. So I'm supposed to talk to strangers. Yikes. It's taken me years just to get halfway comfortable chatting with the coffeeshop employees when I buy my coffee. I never talk to strangers. Never. I'm just too frozen. Yikes. Now I'm supposed to talk to them. It's my homework. Yikes. :-]
>Tabitha, speaking for myself, shyness is a plus in a woman. Chances are that the guy was saying to himself. "She's so fine, she's out of my league"??
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