Posted by Phil on September 25, 2002, at 13:13:07
In reply to Re: Why don't I like my sister anymore?Phil, posted by sjb on September 25, 2002, at 10:11:50
> Phil,
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> Thanks, but, whew. It was not a rape, just some fondling and it was 25 years ago. Doesn't that make it less of a big deal?No. And fondling a 17 year old is close enough to rape in the feelings about yourself you're stuck with.
I guess I've always struggled with that. One PDoc told me he was just being a bully and to forget about it.That's a pdoc that couldn't find his butt with both hands. What a moron.
Other therapists and PDocs jumped all over it and agreed with you, that it is the source of a lot of things. I'm sure there is something to that, as I have two other sisters with very kind husbands, and feel very comfortable around them. They have always been kind and caring to me (never touched me inappropriately), and I believe wonderful, faithful husbands.
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>> My first therapist said it best referring to abuse in the past. It's like a sore in your mouth that you can't keep your tongue off of. haha Or a chipped tooth with live nerves. It hurts when you touch it but you keep touching it. And until you get honest about it, it will be there.Good luck. Hope I wasn't too blunt but I know the territory.
Good luck
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